During this series, we’ve been looking at God’s parenting style and how seriously God takes parenting His children. He clearly defines for His children what is right and wrong and what He expects in this regard. He also lays out how to fix wrong, and the consequences of what happens when wrong is done.
God is merciful toward His children by offering a means of eternity salvation, but God is not lenient toward sin in His children’s lives, because as we’ve talked about already: sin is deadly.
“Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness?” ~Romans 6:16~
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” ~Romans 6:23~
“ . . . each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.” ~James 1:14-15~
Why is correcting our children so important in our own parenting?
There verses above is why! Because when sin is not identified and turned from at the point when it is born, it will continue and bring forth death. If children are not taught to recognize right and wrong (righteousness and sin), they will not see their own sin as sin and they will not know to repent of it and receive the gift of God’s salvation from being enslaved to it and killed by it.
“Therefore the law is holy, and the commandment holy and just and good. Has then what is good become death to me? Certainly not! But sin, that it might appear sin, was producing death in me through what is good, so that sin through the commandment might become exceedingly sinful.” ~Romans 7:12-13~
So what is our role as a parent?
We should be clearly telling our children what is right and wrong (the law, God’s commands) and correcting them when they do wrong (utilizing consequences). Which, not surprisingly, is actually exactly what God instructs us to do.
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6~
“Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul. Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint; but happy is he who keeps the law.” ~Pro 29:17~
“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.” ~Pro 22:15~
“Apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge. Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell. My son, if your heart is wise, my heart will rejoice—indeed, I myself; yes, my inmost being will rejoice when your lips speak right things.” ~Pro 23:13-16~
Training: Paideia The KJV translates Strong’s G3809 in the following manner: chastening (3x), nurture (1x), instruction (1x), chastisement (1x).
Admonition: Nouthesia The KJV translates Strong’s G3559 in the following manner: admonition (3x).
“ . . . from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction (paideia) in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.”~2Timonthy 3:14~
“The fear of the LORD is a fountain of life, to turn one away from the snares of death.” ~Pro 14:27~
“He who follows righteousness and mercy finds life, righteousness, and honor.” ~Pro 21:21~
“Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.” ~Pro 21:23~
“By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches and honor and life.” ~ Pro 22:4~
“Evil men do not understand justice, but those who seek the LORD understand all.” ~Pro 28:5~
“ . . . do not despise the chastening of the LORD, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; for whom the LORD loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives. . . . no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” ~Hebrews 12:5-12~
Teach your children in the ways of the Lord (what is right and wrong, the law), correct them when they do wrong (allow them to experience the consequences), show them the way to fix their ways (repentance, turning), and rejoice when they seek what is good (God’s righteousness).
Note: Parents should not be attempting to define right and wrong for their children but rather teaching their children what God has already defined as right and wrong.
Challenge: “You should know in your heart that as a man chastens his son, so the LORD your God chastens you. Therefore you shall keep the commandments of the LORD your God, to walk in His ways and to fear Him.” ~Deuteronomy 8:5-6~