I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness of late and have come to a conclusion.
In the hard cases of forgiveness, where the other person who has harmed you does not desire to set things right, it feels impossible to forgive. Yet something God’s showing me is forgiveness is impossible because my perspective of that person has been altered from positive to a negative. Therefore humanly speaking I can’t forgive them.
It’s not forgiving the act that changes the perspective, but it’s changing the perspective that forgives the act. But how do we do this?
Humanly speaking we don’t have the ability to just change our perspective.
Yet “…Jesus looked at them and said…, ‘With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’” Mat 19:26
Only through God’s lens and His love are we able to truly look past what they have done and forgive them.
God’s love does not hinge on what people do or don’t do. He loves us regardless and this is the love that we need, and it’s the love we have access to being Christians and being in Christ.
Eph 2:4-7 “But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.”
Eph 3:14-19 “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,… that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able…to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”
Rom 5:5 “…the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
Jude 1:20-21 “But you,…keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
1Pe 4:8 “And above all things have fervent love for one another, for ‘love will cover a multitude of sins.’”
Challenge: Access God’s love, which is unconditional and unchanging, and allow Him to change your perspective from your human lens, in which your love is alterable because of people’s actions, to God’s lens, the perspective of an incredible unconditional love that loves the person not on behalf of their actions but on behalf of their soul (the spiritual life or lack thereof). Only then, with their soul in mind and not our negative feelings, are we able to forgive. For with this love, our perspective is positive. We no longer see them as the person who has harmed us, but instead we are able to see them as someone who needs to be loved regardless of and saved from themselves.
See also Joining Forces